Holi 2016

I just watched you going around trying to get someone to play with you.. and some random 3 pics i took.

Some dad said this

As i received on whatsapp today..
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Beautiful letter written by a father to his son and daughter
Must send to your children

Following is a letter to his daughter from a renowned Hong Kong TV broadcaster and Child Psychologist.
The words are actually applicable to all of us, young or old, children or parents.!
This applies to all sons & daughters too. All parents can use this in their teachings to their children.

Dear daughter,

I am writing this to you because of 3 reasons

1. Life, fortune and mishaps are unpredictable, nobody knows how long he lives. Some words are better said early.

2. I am your father, and if I don't tell you these, no one else will.

3. What is written is my own personal bitter experiences that perhaps could save you a lot of unnecessary heartaches. Remember the following as you go through life

1. Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility of treating you well, except your mother and I.
To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it and be thankful, and ALSO you have to be cautious, because, everyone has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really will be good to you. You have to be careful, don't hastily regard him as a real friend.

2. No one is indispensable, nothing is in the world that you must possess.
Once you understand this idea, it would be easier for you to go through life when people around you don't want you anymore, or when you lose what you wanted the most.

3. Life is short.
When you waste your life today, tomorrow you would find that life is leaving you. The earlier you treasure your life, the better you enjoy life.

4. Love is but a transient feeling, and this feeling would fade with time and with one's mood. If your so called loved one leaves you, be patient, time will wash away your aches and sadness.
Don't over exaggerate the beauty and sweetness of love, and don't over exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love.

5.A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, that does not mean that you can be successful by not studying hard! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life.
One can go from rags to riches, but one has to start from some rags!

6.I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old, neither  would I financially support your whole life. My responsibility as a supporter ends when you are grown up. After that, you decide whether  you want to travel in a public transport or in your limousine, whether rich or poor.

7. You honour your words, but don't expect others to be so. You can be good to people, but don't expect people to be good to you. If you don't understand this, you would end up with unnecessary troubles.

8. I have bought lotteries for umpteen years, but I could never strike any prize. That shows if you want to be rich, you have to work hard! There is no free lunch!

9. No matter how much time I have with you, let's treasure the time we have together. We do not know if we would meet again in our next life.
Your Parents
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Read it twice
Ask your son and daughter to read it thrice. Worth a read.

bullied by Acme kids

On 6 Mar 16 there was an incident which made us angry at you.. since you urinated in public space and i came to know that everybody laughed at you. I need to think through this but am unable to to discuss with mummy what is causing this behaviour of yours.

4 years 1 month and 4 days

Thats the long gap, break, laziness or simply the time spent with you without writing anything on here for you to read.

in these 4 yrs you have grown up from the 2 yr old to the 6 yr old and the wonder years have just flown away...

on 8 Feb16 you fell in school and hurt your forehead.. in Grade I B section - shoved by Devaksh... your class mate.
I don't know what happened but you told what happened.. and I belive that is what happened..

but before this hit on the head, you got a scar on your right eye brow.. you scratched it while looking for a cat under the bench in the Acme complex garden.. and the scratch was of a screw sticking out of the bench backrest.

this was on 30 Jan 16
couple of days before that you fell from the stairs and got a bump on your forehead, left side - same spot that you go hurt today in school.. and got another bump..

and in between, on 3 Feb, you fell from the slide - Poorvi pushed you!! and you fell from 8 ft high slide platform and got hurt on your right chest.
wonder how you fell from such height and just hurt the chest.. and I thought that def. Hanuman helped you not to get hurt too bad!

so 27 Jan, 30 Jan, 3 Feb and 8 Feb... hurt history, that got you a bump and a permanent scar on your right eyebrow!

so much more to write..

remembered Pappa's 2 accidents I need to add here.. on 27112011 and 26112015


let me check if there is a blogger app now for mobile phones! technology has changed quickly in 4 yrs!

RE: Today...I wish you a day of ordinary miracles

Hi Chinnu.. mudduamma

Thanks for being you.. I always think how much I shout at you and you take it very strongly and still advice me

You are a strong person.. and I think you can improve on it because you know your strengths but you are a soft person inside so you don’t want to hurt anyone

In the bargain you get hurt and feel bad

Its ok chinnu we are all in it together and we have to do the best for our darling… I feel sorry for her that she has come into such a family.. just like I feel sorry for you that I am not able to do much for you nor for my parents

I see my friends who go on holidays with their parents and family and I feel where am I stuck here and why

When will I get chance to have a stable and quite way of spending time without the daily fight… all this should have been achieved by now but I am very slow in making things happen

Anyways don’t want to get into all this thinking but want to make things work now.. lets see how we can do it and make it better for bubbu darling…

Hope she will be able to get back her innocence – not sure if it is possible but we have to make her a strong but gentle person.

Our baby is a very divine and harmonious person and she has to be helped to discover these qualities in her… so we have to be strong for it and work hard to bring goodness in her life…

Ok.. enough of lectures.. you have not got such lectures in a long time but I will have to close now..

Hope and pray that things become harmonious for all of us and all of us live a happy and contented life

Bye bye muddu…

From: rangamani choulapalli
Sent: Thursday, January 05, 2012 19:38
To: s s
Subject: FW: Today...I wish you a day of ordinary miracles

HI WISH U HAPPY NEW YEAR 2012 TAE TIME AND FEW PEOPLE.
BYE

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Subject: Fwd: Today...I wish you a day of ordinary miracles
Date: Fri, 30 Dec 2011 17:30:46 -0700

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Have a safe and happy New Year

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--- Today...I wish you a day of ordinary miracles- A fresh pot of coffee you didn't have to make yourself. An unexpected phone call from an old friend. Green stoplights on your way to work or shop. I wish you a day of little things to rejoice in... The fastest line at the grocery store. A good sing along song on the radio. Your keys right where you look. I wish you a day of happiness and perfection-little bite-size pieces of perfection that give you the funny feeling that the Lord is smiling on you, holding you so gently because you are someone special and rare. I wish You a day of Peace, Happiness and Joy. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them. Send this phrase to the people you'll never forget . It's a short message to let them know that you'll never forget them. If you don't send it to anyone, it means you're in too much of a hurry and that you've probably forgotten your friends. Take the time! Wishing you a very Blessed Christmas Season and the best in 2012 and....

FW: Stay away from Anger... It hurts ...!!!!!

Stay away from Anger... It hurts ...   Only You!!! The Buddha explained how to handle insult and maintain compassion. One day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have no right teaching others, he shouted." You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake." Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man "Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?" The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, "It would belong to me, because I bought the gift." The Buddha smiled and said, "That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself." "If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy." The young man listened closely to these wise words of the Buddha. "You are right, o Enlightened One, "he said. "Please teach me the path of love. I wish to become your follower." The Buddha answered kindly, "Of course. I teach anyone who truly wants to learn. Come with me." Beautiful Quotes If you are right then there is no need to get angry, And if you are wrong then you don't have any right to get angry. Patience with family is love, Patience with others is respect, Patience with self is confidence and Patience with GOD is faith. Never Think Hard about PAST, It brings Tears... Don't Think more about FUTURE, It brings Fears... Live this Moment with a Smile, It brings Cheers.!!!! Every test in our life makes us bitter or better, Every problem comes to make us or break us, Choice is ours whether we become victim or victorious !!! Search a beautiful heart not a beautiful face. Beautiful things are not always good but maximum good things are always beautiful. Remember me like pressed flower in your Notebook. It may not be having any fragrance but will remind you of my existence forever in your life. Do you know, why God created gaps between fingers? So that someone who is special to you, comes and fills those gaps by holding your hands forever.

 

Months later...

It's been ages I wrote here...

since the last time I was here to share my thoughts with you, lots have happened...

you have grown up, you have started speaking words as we grown ups know them

you have learned gestures that only you would have learnt

you have fallen more than a dozen times on your head, once split your chin (2nd Apr 2011), once you fell and split your lip (last week of Jul '11) and a few other times when your forehead and back side have taken the hit...

you have cried, I have felt deep anguish to have you go through these falls - for no fault of yours at all...

and I regret each moment.. yet never have been able to get prepared for the next moment..

incidents have happened that you would know once you understand their meanings...

my brother got married on Mar 22nd in the US in a registrar of marriages to a US/Canadian citizen

he had a very long relation with the lady and broke the news 2 years back, and finally this year decided to get into it..

my Ramaa atta - Babumama's wife lost her life in a freak accident - either she jumped off the bus in order to get down at her last stop, or she slipped and fell when the driver intimidated her from getting down... don't know which but it was very very tragic

it has put some breaks in the way life was going on...

your birthdays are very important but ...

a. your first birthday was not celebrated as per your mom's wishes...

i have had a grudge with her being late in all her thoughts and decisions but it probably is due to a variety of reasons on which there has been no control...

nevertheless, I did'nt want your birthday to be grand till you realised the meaning of the birthday - say by 5 years, but your mom said that kids do ask about how their parents celebrated their birthdays when they were younger..

unfortunately, I never knew about birthday celebrations till I Was about 10 or so.. so I didn't realise what I was missing nor related to what others feel about birthdays..

b. your second birthday is round the corner but this sad event has put some plans to disarray...

more about this event later

more about other things too - later when I get to 'focus' on writing to you

you are loving the movie Jungle Book and all it's characters

you have started yelling 'Bageeiiaaaa' and some other interesting ways of saying the names of the characters which I want to record and add here but unable to do so due to lack of time, the right tools and mainly focus to do these...

i want you to know what you were then and how you are here when you are reading this...

I want it to be a 100% effort on my part but such is life when one doesn't have sufficient support network, and one within is not sure how to go about some tasks...

that's me and your mom - we were never able to decide... on time and the right things

however, that should not deter you from growing up learning better ways...

the other thing that bothers me is that my anger, my reaction to your mom's way of being (slow) have affected your sensibilities about anger too

you get angry very fast, and it's like a hairline trigger

one thing you don't get and the next min you started pointing a finger at me/your mom.. just like I used to do...

you picked the anger and finger-pointing damn fast since you were about 18 months old... that's about 7 months before I wrote this

let me see how I can put things in perspective when I get to the next post... I hope I can and will do it..

and Happy Independance day - 64th event after India got free of British rule...

but I am hopingn by the time you read this, India would be in a better shape some way, has at least given you a good education, a good life and a good set of values which you will cherish in life...

I hope of all hopes that you are happy and safe when you read this...

love you lots paapu... bubbu... daalu... daidu...muddu....