FW: Stay away from Anger... It hurts ...!!!!!

Stay away from Anger... It hurts ...   Only You!!! The Buddha explained how to handle insult and maintain compassion. One day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have no right teaching others, he shouted." You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake." Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man "Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?" The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, "It would belong to me, because I bought the gift." The Buddha smiled and said, "That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself." "If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy." The young man listened closely to these wise words of the Buddha. "You are right, o Enlightened One, "he said. "Please teach me the path of love. I wish to become your follower." The Buddha answered kindly, "Of course. I teach anyone who truly wants to learn. Come with me." Beautiful Quotes If you are right then there is no need to get angry, And if you are wrong then you don't have any right to get angry. Patience with family is love, Patience with others is respect, Patience with self is confidence and Patience with GOD is faith. Never Think Hard about PAST, It brings Tears... Don't Think more about FUTURE, It brings Fears... Live this Moment with a Smile, It brings Cheers.!!!! Every test in our life makes us bitter or better, Every problem comes to make us or break us, Choice is ours whether we become victim or victorious !!! Search a beautiful heart not a beautiful face. Beautiful things are not always good but maximum good things are always beautiful. Remember me like pressed flower in your Notebook. It may not be having any fragrance but will remind you of my existence forever in your life. Do you know, why God created gaps between fingers? So that someone who is special to you, comes and fills those gaps by holding your hands forever.

 

Months later...

It's been ages I wrote here...

since the last time I was here to share my thoughts with you, lots have happened...

you have grown up, you have started speaking words as we grown ups know them

you have learned gestures that only you would have learnt

you have fallen more than a dozen times on your head, once split your chin (2nd Apr 2011), once you fell and split your lip (last week of Jul '11) and a few other times when your forehead and back side have taken the hit...

you have cried, I have felt deep anguish to have you go through these falls - for no fault of yours at all...

and I regret each moment.. yet never have been able to get prepared for the next moment..

incidents have happened that you would know once you understand their meanings...

my brother got married on Mar 22nd in the US in a registrar of marriages to a US/Canadian citizen

he had a very long relation with the lady and broke the news 2 years back, and finally this year decided to get into it..

my Ramaa atta - Babumama's wife lost her life in a freak accident - either she jumped off the bus in order to get down at her last stop, or she slipped and fell when the driver intimidated her from getting down... don't know which but it was very very tragic

it has put some breaks in the way life was going on...

your birthdays are very important but ...

a. your first birthday was not celebrated as per your mom's wishes...

i have had a grudge with her being late in all her thoughts and decisions but it probably is due to a variety of reasons on which there has been no control...

nevertheless, I did'nt want your birthday to be grand till you realised the meaning of the birthday - say by 5 years, but your mom said that kids do ask about how their parents celebrated their birthdays when they were younger..

unfortunately, I never knew about birthday celebrations till I Was about 10 or so.. so I didn't realise what I was missing nor related to what others feel about birthdays..

b. your second birthday is round the corner but this sad event has put some plans to disarray...

more about this event later

more about other things too - later when I get to 'focus' on writing to you

you are loving the movie Jungle Book and all it's characters

you have started yelling 'Bageeiiaaaa' and some other interesting ways of saying the names of the characters which I want to record and add here but unable to do so due to lack of time, the right tools and mainly focus to do these...

i want you to know what you were then and how you are here when you are reading this...

I want it to be a 100% effort on my part but such is life when one doesn't have sufficient support network, and one within is not sure how to go about some tasks...

that's me and your mom - we were never able to decide... on time and the right things

however, that should not deter you from growing up learning better ways...

the other thing that bothers me is that my anger, my reaction to your mom's way of being (slow) have affected your sensibilities about anger too

you get angry very fast, and it's like a hairline trigger

one thing you don't get and the next min you started pointing a finger at me/your mom.. just like I used to do...

you picked the anger and finger-pointing damn fast since you were about 18 months old... that's about 7 months before I wrote this

let me see how I can put things in perspective when I get to the next post... I hope I can and will do it..

and Happy Independance day - 64th event after India got free of British rule...

but I am hopingn by the time you read this, India would be in a better shape some way, has at least given you a good education, a good life and a good set of values which you will cherish in life...

I hope of all hopes that you are happy and safe when you read this...

love you lots paapu... bubbu... daalu... daidu...muddu....

FW: Philosophy of Life....... Too good : A Must Read

Philosophy of Life

A boat is docked in a tiny Mexican fishing village.

A tourist complimented the local fishermen on the quality of their fish and asked how long it took to catch them. "Not very long." they answered in unison. "Why didn't you stay out longer and catch more?" The fishermen explained that their small catches were sufficient to meet their needs and those of their families. "But what do you do with the rest of your time?"

"We sleep late, fish a little, play with our children, and take siestas with our wives. In the evenings, we go into the village to see our friends, have a few drinks, play the guitar, and sing a few songs.

We have a full life." The tourist interrupted, "I have an MBA from Harvard and I can help you! You should start by fishing longer every day. You can then sell the extra fish you catch. With the extra revenue, you can buy a bigger boat."

"And after that?"

"With the extra money the larger boat will bring, you can buy a second one and a third one and so on until you have an entire fleet of trawlers. Instead of selling your fish to a middle man, you can then negotiate directly with the processing plants and maybe even open your own plant.

You can then leave this little village and move to Mexico City , Los Angeles , or even New York City!

From there you can direct your huge new enterprise."

"How long would that take?"

"Twenty, perhaps twenty-five years." replied the tourist.

"And after that?"

"Afterwards? Well my friend, that's when it gets really interesting," answered the tourist, laughing.

"When your business gets really big, you can start buying and selling stocks and make millions!"

"Millions? Really? And after that?" asked the fishermen.

"After that you'll be able to retire, live in a tiny village near the coast, sleep late, play with your children, catch a few fish, take a siesta with your wife and spend your evenings drinking and enjoying your friends."

"With all due respect sir, but that's exactly what we are doing now.

So what's the point wasting twenty-five years?" asked the Mexicans.

And the moral of this story is:

Know where you're going in life, you may already be there! Many times in life, money is not everything.

“Live your life before life becomes lifeless”

Fwd: NINE SUPERB QUOTES BY PEOPLE

Shakespeare..... "Never Play With The Feelings Of Others, Because You May Win The Game, But The Risk Is That You Will Surely Loose The Person For Life Time". Napoleon........ "The world suffers a lot. Not because of the violence of bad people, But because of the silence of good people!" Einstein......... "I am thankful to all those who said NO to me It's Because of them I did it myself..." Abraham Lincoln......... "If friendship is your weakest point then you are the strongest person in the world" Shakespeare.......... "Laughing Faces Do Not Mean That There Is Absence Of Sorrow! But It Means That They Have The Ability To Deal With It". William Arthur......... "Opportunities Are Like Sunrises, If You Wait Too Long You Can Miss Them". Hitler..... "When You Are In The Light, Everything Follows You, But When You Enter Into The Dark, Even Your Own Shadow Doesn't Follow You." Shakespeare............. "Coin Always Makes Sound But The Currency Notes Are Always Silent. So When Your Value Increases Keep Yourself Calm Silent" Dr Abdul kalaam........ "It Is Very Easy To Defeat Someone, But It Is Very Hard To Win Someone"

Pappa got the new Honda Activa -White - today around 1:15PM

I am hoping for all things best as always… and wish they continue better…

More on this some time…

 

Around 2pm today, mommy called to inform that today darling bubbles directed her attention towards the blackboard to write something on it…

And then deducing that anything that is black can be written upon with chalk… went up to the LCD screen and tried to write on it

 

albeit she was stopped mid way in this attempt but it shows how the brain has been linking relations between objects and action and events…

 

wOw.. the brain is such an important organ…. And how it learns….

Wish I was a brain doctor..

 

It is the 16^th month and 4^th day today

Yesterday my baby fell from the bed in her sleep… about 3 ft to the floor on her back and hit her head on the floor…

This is her 6^th fall from a height and I Am feeling really guilty about all the times she has fallen… I take full responsibility for any effect this would have on her in terms of her emotional and physiological growth

 

Her first incident I remember occurred on 27^th Feb 2010 when she was just about 5 months old and had just started propelling herself on her back pushing her legs.

I was in the computer room and bujju had come to talk to me for some reason.

Just in that couple of minutes, bubbu pushed herself off the bed and fell.. bawling at the hit…

 

My mom was very upset with the whole incident.. blaming her d-i-l for this lack of care and being so lackadaisical in taking care of the baby.. another excuse to add on to why she would not like the ways of her d-i-l

 

The other falls happened in Bombay.. all of them were due to our nay my Lack of Attention and being a careless dad…

 

So of all these 6 falls, the last one seemed to be the most shock-inducing for me and maybe for her too.. for falling off the bed in your sleep can lead to trauma and I am scared at the whole thought of letting her be on her own… away from me… I have lost my temper and have abused the woman of the house for this .. as she went on blaming me for the whole thing.. as she does every time..

 

Have been upset at myself for the lack of time and lack of organized thought process I need so badly to ensure a decent life ahead…

Things seem to be falling apart and the baby is growing up so fast in all this chaos… seeing her lights up my life and time and I don’t want this time to go away.. but alas.. I have probably never imagined how it would be to be a dad of a baby and a toddler.. and now that I am in that phase.. it is passing away so fast…

 

My darling is learning so fast that I can’t now keep things at a level where she can reach them

She has started using the sitting stool to climb up and remove things which are beyond her arms length.. and she has started banging the mouse to get the computer to play her songs… on realplayer.

She has started to throw the ball over her head over the last month

 

She is doing so much so fast…and I am missing on keeping those memories intact.. for the precious moments come and go fleeting past with no way for my brain to store them in their original form…

 

 

15month blues

bubbu darling has started teething... been 3 weeks now.. after we came back from Baroda

the trip out of bombay from 11th till 21st has been very tellign on her health

her routine changed so she has been behaving very differently

 

also has shown symptoms of frustration - bangs her head on the floor.. or strikes her palms against her forehead...

probably signs she has copied from us.. for we too have been very impatient with each other lately...

that should not interfere in her upbringing but it does... given thaT we are nuclear and have no household help...

 

but yes, she also started taking her first steps since the end of Dec '10 around the 28th or so... when she took her first few steps...